10 Ways to Impress A Girl

{By Ellery Sadler}



Ok first of all, girls just like guys because, you’re kinda cool. And I’m sure you’re a nice thoughtful person and a good friend. But getting a girl to like you beyond just casual friendship may actually take some effort on your part. In a generation of unfortunately wimpy guys, here are 10 things you can do to impress her. [And most of these go for being a good friend too. So even if you don’t have some special girl in mind, a lot of these apply.]

1. Play with Little Kids 

There is nothing as adorable as a guy who loves little kids. Instead of standing there talking to the girls at church, play with the preschoolers. It is very attractive. I’ve been to many places where there’ll be a group of young people talking, but inadvertently, at some point during the conversation, every girl’s eyes wander to that one crazy guy who has lost himself playing with the little kids. He’s down on his hands and knees with toddlers climbing all over him.  It is beyond sweet.

2. Be Yourself

Yeah,  you’ve probably heard that before, but seriously, be yourself. If you aren’t ‘cool’, that’s ok. Embrace it. There is nothing less attractive than a guy who is trying to be something he’s not. The world needs those bold, charismatic guys out front. But it also needs the faithful, the dedicated. The guys who are willing to do their duty and the task at hand. Sometimes it is braver to be the boots on the ground and not the guy pulling the strings. So if you can’t pull off the leather jacket and aviators, it’s ok. (If you can, that’s awesome.)  If you can’t pull off the nerdy glasses and sweater, that’s ok too. (If you can, it’s adorable.) Just be you. Whether the world deems it  ‘cool’ or not.


3. Stop Texting (or chatting or emailing) Her

 No, really. Stop. If you actually think she’s something special, then pick up the phone and talk to her if you live far away, or if you’re close enough (heaven forbid) spend time with her in real life. Anybody can come up with something cute to say, anyone can be charming, anyone can seem cool, anyone can act like they care via text. In real life? That’s a different story.

[Oh and don’t text someone else or be on your phone when you’re with her. Unless your mom is dying. Actually, this goes for just friends too. It’s a gesture of respect to actually be with the people you are with.]

 4. Dress Nicely

This can be within your personal style. (If you don’t know what that is or how to get one check out this or this.) But it is always a good idea to dress well, and believe me, girls definitely notice.

5. Read Her Favorite Book/Watch Her Favorite Movie 

Pay attention and pick up on things she mentions like this. If she tells you her favorite book, than order it on Amazon and get reading.  (Take a cue from Tom Hanks in ‘You’ve Got Mail’, it works. What is cuter than a guy poring over Pride & Prejudice because you told him you liked it?) It shows that you respect her opinion and that you actually care about what she thinks.

 6. Be Polite

And this  is not just saying thank you if she gets you something, but being actually polite. Maybe it’s old fashioned, but it is really sweet when a guy doesn’t swear in front of a girl (or at least catches himself when he does). It’s nice for you to open the door for her, pull out her chair for her, walk on the outside of the sidewalk with her etc. It shows that you respect and cherish her.

Make sure to do this in an unconscious sort of way though, not ostentatiously. I’ve seen guys rush from the back of a large group, elbow past other boys, nearly run into old women and make it, panting, to the door just barely in time, before a girl. This is awkward and unnecessary; so don’t take it too far. But being polite and considerate is always a good idea. Modern day chivalry is not dead, it’s just buried beneath a culture that ridicules it. [As a general rule, if most of the population is making fun of something, you might want to take another look. It’s might be the truth they’re ridiculing.]

7. Laugh

At yourself. Relax, don’t get so uptight about life that you forget to enjoy it. And make her laugh too. Sometimes young Christians are so focused on saving the world they forget Christ already did. So relax and embrace life and laugh at least once a day. (It’s charming and makes you a better person to be around.)

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“Sexiness wears thin and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that is  a real treat.” ~ Joanne Woodward.

8.  Love Your Family

Your family is probably weird. Most of ours are. Your dad might make random awkward comments, your siblings might be loud or terribly quiet, your grandparents might be creepy – that’s ok. Loving them and accepting them as they are is ridiculously attractive. Ever seen ‘My Big Fat Greek Wedding’? That family is weird. Seriously, weird. [Note the grandmother in the corner of this picture …] But awesome at the same time. So love your family. It’s pretty cool. Plus, you’re kinda stuck with them.

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9. Listen

Give your whole attention to her. There is something amazing about a person who gives you their undivided attention. Don’t let your eyes wander to your best friend that just walked in the room, or the TV that’s on, or the message on your phone. Be all there. It is one of the easiest ways to make her feel special. Give her your time.

 10. Love God Most

The way to truly impress a girl is to love God more than you love her. There is nothing as wonderful as a guy who loves God in a authentic, real way. It’s just plain awesome.

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Girls, what would you add to the list? Guys, what do you think?  










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